Espresso 41 Quit Whining

Quit Whining

… continued from “The Power To Choose.”

Following are a few interesting points from a book called, “Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life-A Kick-Butt Approach to a Better Life.” The author, Larry Winget, is known as “The Pitbull of Personal Development.” He is a member of the International Speaker’s Hall of Fame, and a popular public speaker. This writer has a no-nonsense, in-your-face style, so if you don’t particularly like that presentation, you should probably skip the next few articles. (Also, please be mindful that this brusque style and strong language and phraseology is not recommended for use in your daily conversation or around teens or children.)

Whining and refusing to take responsibility kill your chances of success.-Larry Winget

The Danger of Whining
Life is filled with great stuff and horrible stuff. Celebrate the good; deal with the bad. Don’t blame and don’t whine. Whining prolongs the pain. You can’t solve your problems when you are busy whining. Instead of complaining, develop a plan. Carve out a strategy for dealing with your problems. In the process, you will become focused, energized and happier. Whining is like super glue-it keeps you stuck in place. But a plan is emotional turpentine, applied to remove old patterns, worn out paint and horrible glue.
Consider the clichŽ, “Ready, willing and able.” Most people are ready and able to deal with their problems. But are they really willing to move forward? Sadly, the lack of will is often the deal breaker.
Be honest. Your life is in the dumps because you built the dumpster.

Jesus: I have given change to all My children through the ages as a special gift. You don’t have to accept your circumstances. You don’t have to be satisfied with the way you are, the way you think, or the way you feel. You can change things! You can change anything, with My help! Your weaknesses can be strengthened, your faith can grow, your spirit can soar, your endurance can be prolonged–anything you wish is possible with the gift of change. And this gift is given to all. There’s not one person on this Earth, saved or unsaved, who can’t take ahold of the gift of change and change something in their life or world for the better.

Move beyond Laziness
Don’t be lazy; don’t make excuses. Give a damn. Your indifference insults your family and yourself. Care enough to make real changes. Go to the mirror; look into the eyes of that self-reflection and admit the truth: You could be doing more with your life. And deep inside you really care. So get moving and “get a life!” The next stage of your development starts right now.
Begin by watching your mouth. Your actions, words and thoughts are your building blocks and the way you apply them shapes your life. Clean up your thoughts and speech patterns, and you will clean up your life. Words-even unspoken words-have tremendous power. Therefore, label yourself a winner and live up to that label.
Your mind is a large mainframe. You create the software program that makes everything function with greatness, mediocrity or failure. Use positive self-talk, affirmations and mental discipline to program your life for excellence.

The Power of Planning
But affirmations alone are not enough. You are deluding yourself if you think a positive attitude is enough to kick-start your lazy butt. No! Make a plan. Create a list of what’s really important and how to make your ideal life happen. Get busy! Stop trying. Just do it. The little stuff counts. Every detail matters.
Most motivation specialists preach that a good attitude is “The Answer.” Not true. A good attitude is important, but without the right words, actions (work, work, work) and thoughts, your wonderful attitude won’t take you anywhere. You need a plan. Motivation without a plan is like a big balloon without a tie. If you fail to seal off the end of the balloon, it will just zip around the room on hot air without direction or destiny.
Your attitudes about yourself determine the cleanliness and style of your clothes, your health and your success. So what are your attitudes? Make a list. Take your time; be honest.
Write down your basic principles in simple, thoughtful sentences. Now look at that list and at your life. Find the link between your attitudes and your life. If you’ve been honest, you should see the connection. If you’re not happy with your life, you have to change a few of those attitudes.

The Fun Factor
If you enjoy an activity, you’ll find a way to excel at it. And as you excel, you will serve yourself and others with excellence. Fun is important. The lack of fun signals dissatisfaction and frustration. And if that is how you feel when you’re working, you will perform poorly and, therefore, you will suffer from low pay, unfavorable reviews and the threat of termination. If you don’t enjoy your job, find a way to enjoy it. (There are likely some aspects that are satisfying, make the most of those aspects.)

Body and Soul
Don’t underestimate the mind-body connection. Some researchers believe that constant mental negativity is connected to serious illnesses. On a purely physical level, you have an obligation to guard your health. That means taking on a proper diet, and plenty of exercise and rest. Sounds easy, but people are often downright stupid about good health. Why devour toxic, fatty foods? Why drink and drive, creating a scenario that could kill or maim someone, including you? Take control of your health and you will change your life. Try jogging, biking, walking or even energetic sex.
And don’t forget to relax, especially when you make mistakes. No one is perfect; everyone makes errors. So don’t torment yourself about mistakes. Take responsibility; review your decisions; repair the damage and move on. Fix and go! Don’t trash yourself over the past.
Regular reading pays handsome dividends and elevates you into an elite minority. Indeed, fewer than 15% of those who visit a library or bookstore actually exit with books. Only 10% of people read beyond the first chapter of a book. You can also learn from:
¥ Audio or videotapes – A wide range of experts record their programs and lectures on audio or videotapes or CDs. This makes top quality experts instantly available.
¥ Seminars – Experts provide countless seminars and workshops. Just go.
¥ Savvy people – Successful people are often social and are approachable at various gatherings. Don’t be shy about asking a few questions about the road to success. Many achievers will share their career secrets gladly. Just be wise enough to listen.
Life is a roller coaster, risky and never dull. But the large dips and sharp curves add thrills, meaning and joy. You always have the merry-go-round option, instead. The music is pleasant and the turns are safe. But why travel in small repetitive circles when you can really soar?
When old attitudes and habits take hold of you and you just can’t get loose, bust out of the chains that hold you back by wielding the keys turned to swords and you’ll soar higher than you’ve ever gone before, unhindered by the past.-Jesus (Key Promise)

Attitude Is Everything
Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”
He was a unique restaurant manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing his style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”
Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, ‘Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”
“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.
“Yes, it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”
I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: He left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
“The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”
“Weren’t you scared?” I asked.
Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.”
“What did you do?” I asked.
“Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.'”
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
Attitude, after all, is everything.
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.-Martin Luther King, Jr.

Sam Smith
Sam Smith is an independent Missionary, that has spent 7 years of his life in Africa, trying to spread Jesus' message of love in any way possible. He has been involved with non profit companies distributing educational material, youth counseling, IT education and humanitarian aid work in medical camps. He believes in Jesus in the simple way that the Bible speaks about, without going so far as to "belong" to a denomination, but just wants to do his best with likeminded people to make the world a better place.