Espresso 21a – (Top Up) More Good Stuff to Know

(Top Up) More Good Stuff to Know


Hi again, ladies. Here’s a little more info on choosing necklines that suit you and tips on dressing specific body parts that you feel might not be your greatest asset. These are just concise pointers that we thought you might find useful as well as time saving. But of course, you can take it or leave it. And in the end you really just have to go with what you feel most comfortable and confident in, what’s available, what the Lord supplies, knowing that you’ll be loved for you, just as you are, even if you do “break all the rules.”

We hope you find this a useful list of tips, facts and pointers. Please bear in mind, however, that these are only suggestions. They may or may not work for you, so you’ll want to experiment. Have fun!

Body Part Specifics


Thick ankles and calves

Kitten (low) heels are unkind to thick ankles.

Avoid shoes or heels with straps around the ankle.

Avoid wearing capri (3/4) pants. Also avoid three-quarter-length dresses or skirts.

Long skirts are great for thick ankles (even if you are under 5’2″).

Boots generally always flatter thick calves.

Short legs

Cropped pants accentuate short legs.

Avoid wearing tight pants that draw attention to where your torso ends and your legs begin.

Always wear your hem to the ground when wearing trousers with high heels.

Wearing baby doll dresses over pants cover up where the legs begin.

Keep the color flowing—from the shoes to the trouser sock to the pants.

Not much of a waist-line

Avoid wearing baggy slacks.

Don’t wear anything double-breasted.

Deep V necklines will help the waist appear smaller.

Corsets-style tops should flatter you.

Thicker belts around the hips make the waist appear smaller.

Tailored coats left unbuttoned help create the appearance of a more defined waist.

Love handles

Don’t wear skirts or dresses that cut through the middle of your love handles.

Wearing jackets that end at the hip will only accentuate your thighs.

You can balance your shape by wearing A-line skirts and bootleg or flared trousers.

Coats are better for you than jackets.

Large Derrières

Don’t wear jackets that end at the line of your bottom.

Panty lines seen through your clothing will accentuate your larger bottom.

Hipster or low-rise trousers are best and will cut your bottom size almost in half.

High-waisted trousers will do the opposite and make your derrière look big.

Larger pockets on the back of your jeans (as opposed to smaller ones) are more flattering.

Flabby tummy

Don’t wear hipsters that are too low that cut under your tummy causing it to bulge.

Avoid skintight shiny fabrics.

Make sure clothes skim rather than cling.

Empire line dresses and tops hide thickness around the tummy.

Don’t wear your belts too tight.

Make sure tops hang over the tummy loosely rather than get tucked in underneath it.

Steer away from cropped tops that show the tummy.

Big breasts

Don’t wear high round necks.

Don’t leave the house without doing the bra test. If you can see the contours of padding or lace, change it—either the bra or the top.

Avoid ribbed polo necks—they make your breasts look like they start at your neck.

Never wear bras that are darker than the clothes you’re wearing.

Small breasts

Corsets-style tops suit those with bigger breasts better.

Small breasts are usually flattered by high necklines.

Accentuating your back can be a sexy alternative.

If you’re wearing a V-neck sweater, it’s often attractive to wear a round-necked t-shirt underneath.

You might think a scoop neckline gives the appearance of larger breasts but generally that is not the case.



I’m often asked the question, “Why doesn’t this blouse (or dress) look good on me?” Nine times out of ten the offending garment has the wrong style of neckline for the person in question. Fortunately there are some simple rules that will allow you to make good choices for flattering necklines. But before we get into the rules, let’s take a look at the options out there and how to identify the different neckline styles. Different Neckline StylesFor our purposes, we’ve broken down the various neckline styles into three categories: Conservative (Formal), Revealing (Formal), and Casual necklines. They are obviously grouped by common themes. The Conservative (Formal) and Revealing (Formal) are all styles commonly found on formal gowns and fancier dresses, while the Casual necklines are just that, neckline styles commonly found on casual wear. The Conservative and Revealing categories reflect how low these necklines plunge. Conservative (Formal): These neckline styles tend to rest high on the chest and very seldom show any cleavage at all. They are generally good choices for women with smaller or more average-sized chests.

Revealing (Formal): These are the lower-cut styles of neckline—halter, sweetheart, empire, and Queen Anne—and generally display a great deal of a woman’s décolletage.

Casual Necklines: These are the neckline styles commonly found among the casual wear of the average female. They are the vee-neck, crew neck, turtleneck, scoop neck and cowl neck. All of these styles can be found in varying degrees of lowness, depending on the size of the neck opening. The Rules for Neckline Choice: The areas we will be focusing on are body type, face shape, and bust-size. Each of these elements are important considerations when choosing a neckline style, but may be counter-indicative. The key is to look at the different factors and go with neckline styles that are most recommended. Face Shape: The shape of your face is the first consideration for determining your ideal neckline. If your face is oval and well proportioned, you will be able to wear most any style of neckline with equal success. If your face is long and narrow, choose necklines that are wider and more shallow, to draw the eye to the horizontal and make your face appear wider. Conversely, if your face is wider and rounder, a neckline that has a stronger vertical shape will help to balance your overall look.The concept here is balance. You want to choose a neckline style to balance your features and help you look more in proportion. Body Type: Following along on the theme of balance, you again want to select a neckline that will create balance in your overall appearance.Women who are average in build should be able to wear most every neckline style with equal ease.Large-framed women should look for necklines that stress a more vertical line. Vee necks, scoop necks, sweetheart necklines, Queen Anne and empire necklines can all look good. Even portrait necklines can be flattering as long as the neckline dips sufficiently to provide an elongating effect.Small-framed women should look for necklines that will offer a widening effect. The bateau, Sabrina, portrait, crew neck, vee neck and jewel necklines will help to make the narrower build appear wider.

Bust Size: For our purposes here, we will be considering breast size as well as shoulder width. Women with moderately-sized bosoms and average shoulder width should be comfortable with any of the listed neckline styles. A woman who has a small bust and narrow shoulders should consider choices like the bateau, Sabrina and portrait necklines, as well as the sweetheart and Queen Anne styles. Broad-shouldered and big-busted women should choose styles like the empire, Queen Anne and lower-cut portrait necklines as well as scoop neck, cowl neck and vee neck style.Treat each of these facets of your appearance separately, and look at the suggestions indicated for each and write them down. The neckline styles that appear most often on your list are the ones you should focus on. Just remember that there are variations on each and every style listed that could make a choice not normally recommended more acceptable. If you keep in mind the theme of “balance”, you’ll find yourself making good decisions. Bonus Tip: As a bonus in our discussion of neckline styles, I want to offer you a little extra tip concerning jewelry—namely necklaces. Accessories are important to the overall appearance of your look and many women make the mistake of wearing the wrong jewelry with a certain neckline style. I have seen countless women wearing pendant necklaces with low cut dresses only to have the jewelry get lost in their cleavage. You wear jewelry because you want to show it off, and if it can’t be seen, it’s a wasted effort.As a handy rule of thumb, use your thumb. Any necklace you wear should hang at least one thumb’s length above or one thumb’s length below the neckline of your dress or blouse. If you keep this in mind, you’ll find you have more people admiring your favorite jewelry instead of trying to figure out where it went.

Sam Smith
Sam Smith is an independent Missionary, that has spent 7 years of his life in Africa, trying to spread Jesus' message of love in any way possible. He has been involved with non profit companies distributing educational material, youth counseling, IT education and humanitarian aid work in medical camps. He believes in Jesus in the simple way that the Bible speaks about, without going so far as to "belong" to a denomination, but just wants to do his best with likeminded people to make the world a better place.